When your life didn't turn out to be quite as you expected, when the one you love is stuck in an addiction, when you're constantly worried, day and night, you might get stuck in something called dwelling.
You might find yourself dwelling in thoughts and questions over and over again without getting anywhere. The thoughts are spinning around in your head all day long until you go to sleep and when you wake up the same thoughts starts spinning once again.This may lead to you becoming very tired of your own thoughts.
Here's an exercise for those who want to stop dwelling and instead make room for different thoughts.
Exercise - dwell on time!
1. Set a time each day when you get to dwell as much as you want to, 100 percent. For example: "Today at 3 o'clock, for 20 minutes, I'll dwell how much I want.
2. If you then start to dwell before 3 o'clock, you say to yourself, "Okay, I'll take care of those thoughts at 3 o'clock", and then concentrate on something else.
3. When the clock turns 3, sit down and think, write, cry and dwell on everything and anything you can come up with, for 20 minutes.
4. When the time is up, focus on other things again, and come up with a new time to dwell the following day.
This way, the dwelling won't take over your whole day and you'll have the oportunity to focus on something else. After some time, when you sit down in order to dwell, you'll probably come to the conclusion that it's rather boring and that you'd rather do something else. Then you've overcome your own dwelling.
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Take care!
/Carina
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