tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34329757446320271012024-03-22T04:08:34.122+02:00Family, Friends & AddictionAre you close to someone who suffers from an addiction? It could be your parent, child, partner, colleague or someone else you care about. A person's substance abuse may have a huge negative impact on the people around him or her. Maybe you feel worried, frustrated, sad, angry or afraid. It's important to remember that you're not alone. This blog aims to provide support, knowledge and share experiences about being affected by someone else´s addiction. Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-86910612699203248472016-09-13T13:08:00.001+03:002016-09-24T13:33:52.625+03:00PAUSE....<br />
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<i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">- The
exercises in this manual have made me understand
some things about my own behavior, and about my relative who is a
substance addict. It has made me think differently. </span></span></i>
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<i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">- The
self-help manual helped me to let go of some of my control and as a
result my relationship to my husband is much better.</span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">- The
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<i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">- The
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if I need to. </span></span></i>
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got a new picture of what I can change and what is my responsibility,
and what isn’t. It has also changed the way I communicate with my
relative with alcohol problems. </span></span></i>
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I feel stronger and I’m able to speak up more without getting a bad
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can also look through the previous post here, or all the 197 posts
that I've written during the years at: <a href="http://codependencyinfo.blogspot.se/">codependencyinfo.blogspot.se</a>.
I guarantee that you will find much interesting stuff!</span></span></span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-18729263444531080962016-09-06T20:00:00.000+03:002016-09-06T20:00:05.025+03:00Something to Think About? <div lang="sv-SE" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
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many different opinions when it comes to medical treatment of drug
addiction. One of the most common questions in the debate is: should
you replace one drug with another drug, with the goal of getting rid of
addiction? There's no easy answer. The discussion about the use of buprenorphine in treatment has been in focus for a long time. Buprenorphine is a highly
addictive substance which is used for the
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found the following article about medical treatment, mainly that of buprenorphine, written by Jake Nichols, interesting. Nichols is a
pharmacists who has suffered from opioid addiction. He's now drug free,
due to both therapy and 12-step programs, but also buprenorphine.
Despite his relatively positive view of medical treatment and its
benefits, he also talks about the need for more research and a
discussion about what kind of restrictions there should be and how
the different treatment methods should look like.</span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-67277413719747253382016-09-01T17:00:00.000+03:002016-09-01T17:00:01.132+03:00Stop looking for errors - Focus on yourself<div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span lang="en">A wise person once told
me: "drugs are the devil on earth.<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">"</span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I'm inclined to agree. Drugs
lead to terrible consequences and create a lot of suffering for both
the person with addiction and those who are close to the person<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> </span>It's common that relatives
blame themselves for the person's addiction, which may easily lead to
self-accusations and self-hate. What many people do is trying to find
the “error” or the “fault”, either in the whole situation, in
the other person, or in oneself.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Try to avoid this type of
“troubleshooting”. The disease of addiction is a complex disorder
that often depends on many factors and situations. All factors
combined lead to the person making destructive choices (choices that
probably felt positive for the person in the beginning), which then
lead to an addiction.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">So it's not worth finding
"faults" and “errors”. Instead, try and find a solid
ground to stand on. Find situations, places, feelings and thoughts
that make you feel safe. Try avoiding taking big, decisive decisions
whenever possible. If you instead would turn his thoughts to show
your compassion and important decisions if possible. </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">What are you in
need of right now? A reliable friend? A warm bed? A little food in
your stomach? A cup of tea? Write something in a journal? A nap? To cry for a while? </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Give yourself that. Right
now.</span></span></span></div>
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</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-45850710098443119532016-08-27T17:00:00.000+03:002016-08-28T15:32:53.124+03:00Clear and direct communication!<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>Today I've been thinking about communication. How do you talk and
discuss addiction with a person with a substance abuse problem?
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</span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">When talking to relatives, I have noticed that many don't mention "alcohol" or "drugs" by name when talking to their close one. This may create ambiguity, misunderstanding and it may also lead to
denial from both sides. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>Unclear vs. clear communication</b></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">An example might be that the relative
says: "You seem tired today, I don't want to have dinner with
you when you are so tired and sluggish." Instead of clearly
saying: "I feel uncomfortable having dinner with you when you have
been drinking. I really like having dinner with you when you're sober." </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">When using the first example, the signal going out to the person with an addiction might be that he/she needs to be "awake" and alert in order to have dinner with the other person. The sentence doesn't directly have anything to do with drugs or alcohol, and the person may keep being in denial. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"><i>This is a re-post from something that I wrote some time ago</i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>. I wanted t</i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>o publish it </i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>again since <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">the topic is very important and highly relevant <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">when it comes to <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">how our society looks like today</span></span></span></span></i></span></span></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">: <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">i</span>llegal d</span>r</span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">ugs are <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">very easy to access<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">, mainly b<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">ecause of the internet.<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> I hope this post can be <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">helpful<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> to you as</span></span> a parent to a<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> teenager or young adult. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></i></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></i></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
<a name='more'></a><i> </i><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US">It may be very painful to
find out that your child is addicted to alcohol/drugs. Here are some
common questions and answers when it comes to teenagers with substance use
disorder. The information has been taken from The National Institute of Drug
Abuse (NIDA). Read more at: </span><a href="http://www.drugabuse.gov/"><span lang="EN-US">www.drugabuse.gov</span></a></span><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">. </span> </span></span><br />
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he/she starts to act different without any reason, for example:</span></span></span></div>
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feels tired/down</span></span></span></li>
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different towards family members (irritated/angry etc.) </span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-language-override: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-synthesis: weight style; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"></span></span><span lang="EN-US">Changes
circle of friends</span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-language-override: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-synthesis: weight style; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"></span></span><span lang="EN-US">Doesn’t
take care of personal health (hygiene/food intake/physical activities etc.)</span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-language-override: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-synthesis: weight style; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"></span></span><span lang="EN-US">Misses/fails/skips
classes</span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-language-override: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-synthesis: weight style; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"></span></span><span lang="EN-US">Loose
interest in things that used to be important </span></span></span></li>
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recognize some of these signs - it might be a good start to find out the reason for
the changes as soon as possible. Don’t wait for your child to become addicted!</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US">To ask for
professional help at a medical center is a good start. It takes a lot of
hard work and courage to seek help and to recover from an addiction, and it might
result in big changes in your child’s academic and personal life. Remember that
it takes time and require<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">s </span>patience. </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US">Don’t use nagging or yelling</span></span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US">! Many people suffering from addiction
find it frightful to lose their drugs. Explain to your child that the treatment
is not dangerous and that the treatment centers will provide all the help
she/he needs. Tell your child that you/your family will be at her/his side all
the way, whatever happens. Most teenagers only enter treatment if there’s a
pressure from their family. To meet
a professional</span></span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US"> may be a big step on the way</span></span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US">, since talking to <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">your child </span>alone may stir up a lot of emotions
(accusations, yelling, threats or fear may be some emotions that will only
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span lang="EN-US">WHAT DO I DO IF MY CHILD HAS ALREADY BEEN IN TREA<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">TMENT BUT HAS SUFFERED FROM A RELAPSE?</span></span></b></span></span></span></div>
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that your child has already been provided with many tools that may help. <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Y</span>ou should view a new treatment as a supplement for the earlier
treatment. Your child is now acquainted with the ways in which he/she may
recover from addiction; a relapse doesn’t mean a failure! Try and explain this
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="EN-US">Talk! There
are many tools that you can use to avoid destructive conversations, many of which you can read about in this blog (see previous <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">o<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">r up</span>coming posts here, or at<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> www.codependencyinfo.blogspot.se)</span></span>. Let your
child express her/his emotions, but keep in mind that people suffering from
addiction may find it hard to tell the truth (mostly because of shame), and
that’s why it’s a good idea for your child to speak to someone unknown
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span lang="EN-US"><span style="color: blue;">I'VE HEARD TH<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">AT</span> TEENAGERS OFTEN USE<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> DRUGS TO SELF-MEDICAT<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">E IN ORDER TO TREAT DEPRESSION. <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">HOW <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">DO I FACE THIS PROBLEM? </span></span></span></span></span></span></b></span></span></div>
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be a possibility that your child is suffering from both addiction and depression,
which is very common when it comes to addiction in general. Encourage your
child to tell his/her health care provider about all his/her problems/feelings.
Don’t try and force your child to speak to you if he/she is not willing to do
so. There are many effective non-addictive drugs that can help a person with
mental health issues. Talk to your child’s health care provider! Ask how
they deal with depression and tell them<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> </span>what you know when it comes to
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-49384148707518418722016-08-17T17:00:00.000+03:002016-08-18T18:50:05.620+03:00Love = Live together?<b><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">There's one thing that I keep thinking about: do you really have to live together with a person just because you love him/her?</span></span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>I believe it's OK to love someone without necessarily having to live together with the person or even stay in touch or contact them. </b>To accept that: <i>"Yes, I love him. At the same time as I deserve to respect myself and experience well-being in my life, and that is the bigger priority". </i></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I believe that you can reach a point in life where the goal to live together with the person you love becomes secondary. <b style="color: #38761d;">And to take care of your own life becomes the primary goal.</b> It doesn't matter how much I love the person or how strong the dream of "<i>how it could be"</i> is, if this dream is not the reality. When the dream is only a dream. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I</span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">n the end, the challenges were for YOU.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">But we're not quite finished yet, see today's challenge in the picture below! <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">And here are some final questions you can think about<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">: </span>i</span>n what kind of ways did you take care of yourself? Did you find it hard? Easy? Which challenge <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">did you find most rewarding? If <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">any of the<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">se challenges helped you, try doing them again! </span></span> </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>See you again dear readers and followers! TAKE CARE!<br />/ Carina</b></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-39648276410142622212016-08-06T08:03:00.000+03:002016-08-18T11:57:04.460+03:00SATURDAY'S CHALLENGE: Say no, and say yes!!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Prioritize and take a stand to something you don't want to do, and to something you want to do! Listen to your needs! See the exercise on the picture<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Every morning at 8 am (Central European Summer Time) until Sunday I'll post a daily challenge<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">. </span>The challenges aren't difficult; they're meant to be easy so you can do them in everyday life.<br /><br /><span style="color: #4c1130;"><span style="color: black;"><b>HERE'S THE FIRST CHALLENGE! (see the picture below): Please rate your satisfaction in the various areas of life. I would like to know your answer to the question:<i> What's the easiest thing you can do to increase your satisfaction in one of these areas? </i></b></span> </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><b> </b><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>GOOD LUCK! :) <br />/Carina</b></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-503324711721564222016-07-31T17:00:00.001+03:002016-08-18T11:58:22.402+03:00 Prepare for the “challenge week”, starting TOMORROW! <br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">One week with simple, daily challenges in order to improve your well-being! <br /><br />Every day at 8 am (Central European Summer Time), starting tomorrow, I'll post a new challenge on <b><a href="https://www.facebook.com/carina.bang.author/" target="_blank">my Facebook page</a></b>!<b><br /><br />GOOD LUCK!</b></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>/Carina </b></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-4014473317827994442016-07-31T17:00:00.000+03:002016-08-18T11:58:27.510+03:00 Prepare for the “challenge week”, starting TOMORROW! <br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">One week with simple, daily challenges in order to improve your well-being! <br /><br />Every day at 8 am (Central European Summer Time), starting tomorrow, I'll post a new challenge<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">. I hop<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">e</span> you find them he<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">lpful! </span></span><b><br /><br />GOOD LUCK!</b></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>/Carina </b></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-79335676698694587172016-07-28T17:00:00.000+03:002016-08-03T12:31:37.572+03:00 "CHALLENGE WEEK"!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span class="fbPhotosPhotoCaption" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}" id="fbPhotoSnowliftCaption" tabindex="0"><span class="hasCaption"><b>PREPARE FOR THE "CHALLENGE WEEK"<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">!</span></b><br /> <br /> With
the goal of improving your well-being, I'll post an easy daily challenge
every morning at 8 am (Central European Summer Time) for a week,
starting Monday! T<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">he challen<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">ge is for YOU! </span></span>The tas<span class="text_exposed_show">k is for you to
do the<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">m</span> during the day<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">, </span>and <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">a suggestio<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">n <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">might b<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">e to reflect on how you think you did and how it felt like in the <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">evening</span></span></span></span></span>. I'm really looking forward<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> to doing the challenges my self!</span><br /> </span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span class="fbPhotosPhotoCaption" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}" id="fbPhotoSnowliftCaption" tabindex="0"><span class="hasCaption"><span class="text_exposed_show"><b>Take care! /Carina </b></span></span></span></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-76129100455985179112016-07-21T16:52:00.000+03:002016-07-31T12:46:07.086+03:00What does other relatives say about the Self-help manual?<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;"><b>Hоw do уоu ѕоlvе thе сrіѕеѕ іn thе lives of
someone сlоѕе tо уоu who happens to be уоur ѕроuѕе addicted tо tаkіng Marijuana
or уоur child whо is аddісtеd to drugѕ or alcohol? </b><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;">Sеlf-Hеlр Manual fоr Rеlаtіvеѕ оf Subѕtаnсе
Abusers іѕ рublіѕhеd on Amаzоn Kindle. Itѕ aim is tо enable fоr the rеlаtіvеѕ,
іn thе сіrсumѕtаnсеѕ they are living іn rіght nоw, tо free thеіr potential аnd
focus оn thеmѕеlvеѕ, thеіr lіvеѕ and ѕіtuаtіоn through the support оf this
manual and come сlоѕеr to thе gоаlѕ аnd drеаmѕ that they have.<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;">Thе ѕеlf-hеlр mаnuаl іѕ аbоut thе
rеlаtіvеѕ' situation аnd fоr thоѕе who want tо ѕtаrt a gradual process tо a
lаrgеr wеllbеіng. It рrоvіdеѕ perspectives on thе rеlаtіvе'ѕ situation аnd
аbоut thе rеlаtіvе'ѕ emancipation frоm аbuѕе rоllеrсоаѕtеr оf ѕеlf-hеlр
еxеrсіѕеѕ for thе rеаdеr. <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;">Rеlаtіvеѕ саn bе affected іn various wауѕ.
Oftеn the word “со-dереndеnсу” іѕ uѕеd tо еxрlаіn thе bеhаvіоr раttеrnѕ of a
rеlаtіvе tо a ѕubѕtаnсе abuser аnd thоѕе who are emotionally affected by thе
abuser. Thе еxрrеѕѕіоn оf co-dependency саn bе very dіffеrеnt fоr dіffеrеnt
individuals. The ѕіtuаtіоnѕ and life circumstances саn be different - реrhарѕ
thе rеlаtіvе іѕ уоur сhіld, your раrеnt or another mеmbеr оf уоur close family.
It can bе уоur huѕbаnd or wіfе, оr it can bе somebody you аrе working with
dаіlу or a close frіеnd. The relationship соuld be nеw or реrhарѕ уоu have
lived wіth thе ѕubѕtаnсе аbuѕеr аll your life. Maybe hе or ѕhе is the fаthеr or
mother to уоur children. <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;">Bеlоw are ѕоmе of thе еxсеllеnt reviews аnd
соmmеntѕ frоm thе buyers on thе Amаzоn: <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></span></span></div>
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</span>I wаntеd tо feel safe and ѕесurе. I wаntеd to lіvе wіthоut fеаr, without
thrеаtѕ frоm my аlсоhоlіс fаthеr. I could nоt make mу mother dіvоrсе him, but I
соuld change *mу* approach. Carina Bаng dеѕсrіbеѕ vеrу рrесіѕеlу hоw substance
аbuѕе аffесtѕ a fаmіlу’ѕ life. Shе describes the bеhаvіоr of thе fаmіlу
mеmbеrѕ. It is ѕо precise аѕ if she hаd known mу fаmіlу fоr уеаrѕ. <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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</span>I can rеаllу and trulу recommend thіѕ mаnuаl, I thіnk it'll bе hеlрful
fоr еvеrу person bеіng a relative/friend/spouse to ѕоmеоnе ѕuffеrіng frоm
аlсоhоl- оr drug аbuѕе. Both whеn іt comes tо helping thе реrѕоn, but also
hеlріng oneself... I think thаt was thе mоѕt rewarding раrt by reading іt! <o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Hіghlу rесоmmеnd thіѕ bооk іf you lіvе wіth anyone who ѕuffеrѕ frоm
ѕubѕtаnсе abuse but also perhaps if уоu live wіth people with mental іllnеѕѕ оr
dіѕаbіlіtіеѕ. Mаnу books аddrеѕѕ thе nееdѕ оf thе раtіеnt, vеrу fеw bооkѕ
address thе need for the саrеrѕ. </span></span><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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еxреrіеnсе in motivating реорlе wіth ѕubѕtаnсе abuse рrоblеmѕ tо сhаngе аnd
supporting fаmіlіеѕ tо соре with thе situation. Cаrіnа hаѕ a Bасhеlоr’ѕ
degree in Crіmіnоlоgу and іѕ a сеrtіfіеd ACC-coach (International Coach
Fеdеrаtіоn). Cаrіnа wrote thіѕ mаnuаl bесаuѕе ѕhе іѕ convinced thаt іt іѕ
tіmе tо рut thе rеlаtіvеѕ аnd thеіr hеаlth іn fосuѕ and thаt everybody іn thе
family wіll benefit frоm thіѕ.</span></span><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-30211750772098613902016-07-17T13:06:00.000+03:002016-07-17T13:06:01.383+03:00Being brought up in families with alcohol- or drug addiction<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b>On a forum in Sweden for relatives to substance abusers my colleague Ann-Charlotte Johansson and I carried
out a survey with some interesting results.</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Here is a summary. (This was not a
scientific survey, but it still shows significant signals). 80 people responded to the survey, mainly women. 44 people of the respondents grew up in
a family where one parent or both parents had alcohol or drug problems. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #e69138;"><span style="font-size: large;">*</span> </span></span><b>44 people</b> said they have grown up with parents with
substance abuse including alcohol problems (37 people), alcohol + drug problems
(4 people), drugs (1 person) and alcohol and medical drugs (2 people). </span><br />
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were in the influence of other substances. 14 people answered that they were subjected to
violence during the adults' alcohol or drug intake. 25
people said that they saw others being victims of violence
during situations where someone was intoxicated, and that the violence was mostly directed against
the mother. In some cases, the violence was also directed against siblings and in 2 cases against the father. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #e69138; font-size: large;">*</span><b> 27 people</b> who grew up with parents with addiction started relationships later in life with a person with addiction.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #e69138;"><span style="font-size: large;">*</span> </span><b>6 people out of the 44 </b>who grew up with alcohol- or drug abuse
in the family developed their own substance abuse later in life.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #e69138;"><span style="font-size: large;">*</span> </span><b>35 people </b>said that when they were children they
tried to protect an adult while another adults were under the influence of alcohol or drugs.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"></span><b><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">We need to help children in families where alcohol- or drug abuse take place! We need to see them and talk to them. Take action to get them out of the situation that they're in. We need to be aware of the signals which a child in this kind of situation might send out. </span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Have you grown up in a home where </span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">alcohol- or drug abuse took place? Do you still feel affected by your previous situation? Or are you there now? You're NOT alone! But I know it might be very hard to talk about. Or bring it up again. Deal with all the feelings you might have suppressed. I know it might be difficult, but the first step on the way can be talking to someone that you trust. There are many ways in which you can get help. </span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Take care and be safe! </span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">/Carina</span></b><br />
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dear colleague Ann-Charlotte Johansson have shared her knowledge
about guilt and shame. Many thanks! </span></b></span></span>
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feel guilt and shame can help people seeing their own limits, but
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<span style="color: black;"><span lang="en">As a close one to a person with
addiction, you may try and maintaining a type of facade. It's common that a person suffer from thoughts like: <i>"what
if others would know?", "what would they say at work?".</i>
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life. Furthermore, a feeling of guilt may occur when you for example
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Weston, psychologist, psychotherapist and author of numerous of books,
there's two types of shame:<b> the temporary shame and the chronic
shame</b>. The first one occurs in a specific type of situation, when
we've for example made a big mistake. We might blush and feel
"offended". The chronic shame is more harmful and is rooted
in the individual's self-image; for example that he/she is useless or
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need to recognize and face our shame, guilt, sadness, anger – well,
all the feelings we've pushed aside in order to endure our daily
life. A kind of conciliation process will help a person seeing things
more clearly and a picture of how the person want his/her life to
look like will begin to take shape. When you'll start focusing on the
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<b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en">Instead of running away from
your feelings of shame and guilt – face them! A good start might be
talking about the one thing that might affect your life a lot; your
close one's addiction.</span></span></b></span></span></div>
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</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432975744632027101.post-50960626540158752482016-07-09T16:50:00.000+03:002016-07-09T16:50:08.775+03:00Exercise – Mindfulness<div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en"><b>If
you often feel anxiety, fear or anger, or if you want to practice
acceptance, this exercise in mindfulness might be helpful. </b> </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="sv-SE">M</span><span lang="en">indfulness has its
roots in Zen Buddhism and is about being present in the moment. We
live in the moment; the past is the past and the future is yet to
come. There are scientific studies that show that mindfulness is
effective for people with mental illness disorders or stress-related
problems. If you want to try this exercise, do it regularly, every
day, for a certain period of time, to see if it changes your life,
thoughts or feelings in any way. </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en"><span style="color: #0b5394;"><b>1.</b></span> Try finding a calm and peaceful place, where you won't be disturbed. </span></span></span></div>
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your stomach. </span></span></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en">Hold your breath for a few seconds and exhale. </span></span></span></div>
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time, imagine that you're breathing out all the old worries, anxiety,
discomfort and all the negative feelings which you want to get rid
of. During inhalation, you'll breathe in strength, happiness, well-being
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over your breathing. What's peaceful for you? Surround yourself with a
calmness and accept that all your thoughts and feelings come and go.
You don't have to think about them too much. Just accept that they're there. </span></span></span>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en">You might not feel anything the first time you do this, but
continue to do the exercise on a regular basis and in different
situation, for example when you are cooking, standing in line at the
grocery store, are stuck in a traffic jam, when you need a little
break from work, before going to bed ... and so on. Feel what's best
for you! </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-size: x-small;">Exercise by Maria Flensburg, instructor in Mindfulness Training,
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: small;"><b>"Tough love". Have you ever heard the expression before? I<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">'ve </span>heard</b></span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: small;"><b> that you should use tough love towards the person with substance abuse.</b></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: small;">But what exactly is "tough love"<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">? </span>Can love be tough? Or is it about functional and respectful attitude, towards yourself and others? <span class="long_text" id="result_box" lang="en"><span class="hps">It doesn't have to be<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> negative. You<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">, yourself<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">, can turn it into somethi<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">ng positive and use it <span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">according</span> to your own situation in life. </span></span></span></span> </span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span class="long_text" id="result_box" lang="en"><span class="hps" style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I interpret<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> that</span> tough love means:</span></span></b></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span class="long_text" id="result_box" lang="en" style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span class="hps">* To</span> <span class="hps">stand up for your</span> <span class="hps">own values</span> <span class="hps"></span><span class="hps">and not</span> <span class="hps">compromise or violate what you believe in.</span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">When your life didn't turn out to be quite as you expected, when the one you love is stuck in an addiction, when you're constantly worried, day and night, you might get stuck in something called dwelling. </span></span></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">You might find yourself dwelling in thoughts and questions over and over again without getting anywhere. The thoughts are spinning around in your head all day long until you go to sleep and when you wake up the same thoughts starts spinning once again.This may lead to you becoming very tired of your own thoughts. <br /><br />Here's an exercise for those who want to stop dwelling and instead make room for different thoughts. </span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"><b>Exercise - dwell on time!</b></span></span><br /><br /><span style="color: #0b5394;"><b>1. </b></span>Set a time each day when you get to dwell as much as you want to, 100 percent. For example: "Today at 3 o'clock, for 20 minutes, I'll dwell how much I want.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"><b>2.</b></span> If you then start to dwell before 3 o'clock, you say to yourself, "Okay, I'll take care of those thoughts at 3 o'clock", and then concentrate on something else. </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"><b>3. </b></span>When the clock turns 3, sit down and think, write, cry and dwell on everything and anything you can come up with, for 20 minutes. </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span style="color: #0b5394;">4. </span></b>When the time is up, focus on other things again, and come up with a new time to dwell the following day.<br /><br /> </span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">This way, the dwelling won't take over your whole day and you'll have the oportunity to focus on something else. After some time, when you sit down in order to dwell, you'll probably come to the conclusion that it's rather boring and that you'd rather do something else. Then you've overcome your own dwelling.</span></span></span><br />
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